To become a confident person, all one has to do is to eradicate the confidence killers. The self-defeating thought patterns can be called confidence killers. Many of us believe in these harmful suppositions. Here are a few confidence killers mentioned, see if you have any:

1. Do you consider yourself as the “All or Nothing” sniper? If you believe so, then probably it is the biggest reason why you never seem to enjoy even your smallest victories that you have achieved in life. You think of yourself as someone who is a complete failure if you have failed to achieve perfection. If you stop being so hard to yourself, you might become a confident person.

2. Never think that there is always a disaster waiting for you. Don’t let the Dark Cloud of Destruction make you think silly things. Believe in yourself and move ahead.

3. The next confidence killer is the ‘Warlord of Negative Magnification’. If you pay heed to this one, you won’t ever be able to overcome your lack of confidence. It’s simple and makes you believe that if this is something good, it doesn’t really count. You will build up more and more negative energy starting from a tiny speck by magnifying it like a mountain. For instance, suppose you have won eight contests but you failed to achieve success in the ninth one, then don’t think about the one you lost, but instead look at the eight achievements. Doing the other way round makes you kill your confidence.

4. Never go by the thought that if you feel it then it must be so. It blocks the clear thinking parts of your brain. It is not always that what you feel is actually the truth. No one can be perfect always; we all have some days when we are not able to perform to the perfection. Don’t let your emotions over run your lives. Be confident that maybe next day you will be better.

5. Perfectionists are bound to be good at making ‘should statements’. But what one must remember is that should statements are more about what, according to you, is expected by the people from you and not what you really want. Taking an example, if someone makes a statement that everyone should have an education plan. Then the people who don’t have an education plan might fret at this thought and think that there is something wrong with them.

6. Don’t label yourself as a loser. Never say that you are a loser or everything went wrong because of you. If you have to label yourself, then better label yourself as a confident person. Throw away this libelous labeler attitude.

7. Never be a compliment constrictor, this won’t ever allow you to accept a compliment. It will instead make you feel you are not worth it.

If you are able to find out your confidence killer(s) from these, then half of the battle is over. The only thing that is now left is to train yourself in order to abandon these confidence-killing thoughts.