Should You Bother With A Second Date
It can be quite nerve-wracking going on a first date and you just don't know what to expect. Everyone has different expectations when they go on a first date as well as in a relationship, so how do you know whether a man is a 'keeper' or not? There are some signs that will show you whether a man is really worth even going on a second date with.
The first thing you should look at is where the man takes you on your first date. The venue that he takes you should meet some basic first date criteria. He should take you somewhere public, casual and conservative. If it seems that this guy has put no thought whatsoever in where he was taking you for your first date then he either doesn't have much imagination or the date doesn't really concern him all that much. By the end of the date you will probably know which one of those it is and then you can consider that in your decision as to whether to see him again.
Another thing to consider is how much confidence the man has. Can this guy make decisions or is he constantly second guessing himself? It is nice to have a man that can make decisions and not leave everything up to you. Although some women do prefer to be the dominant partner so they may prefer a man that isn't overly confident. So it depends on whether you prefer a man with confidence or one with no confidence, either way you should be able to tell which he is by the end of the first date.
Then there are the little things that you can pay attention to. When you are walking along the street does he walk by your side or does he walk a few feet ahead like he's embarrassed to be seen with you? Does he constantly stare at you when having a conversation? Does he order your meal without even asking what you want or what you like? Unless you enjoy being controlled by a man and ogled at constantly, then this sort of behavior doesn't point to a promising relationship.
Communication is a very important factor in any relationship and sometimes on a first date it can be a little awkward at first. However if the guy constantly talks only about himself and has no real interest in listening to anything you have to say, then he is probably not good relationship material. Unless you really want to spend your life with a man that is only interested in himself!
It is nice to have a man that shows some respect and courtesy. It is nice if a guy opens the door for you or pulls out your chair for you to sit down at the table, but it is also important to watch how he treats others. Does he constantly talk negatively about other people? Is he rude to the waiters? Does he saw terrible things about his ex girlfriend? Does he say anything nasty about your friends or family? If he is overly nice to you but nasty to everyone else then his niceness to you is just an act and it will eventually wear off. You can get a good idea of a man's character by how he treats other people.
When you look at all of these factors you can soon get the general idea of what a guy is like and whether you think he is the sort of guy that you want to pursue a relationship with. If you don't think he is then it really isn't even worth going on a second date, just cut your losses and move on to find that man that is perfect!
