Moving Past Betrayal

One of the things that destroy relationships the fastest is when one of the partners betrays the other one. This is done through cheating, but it can also happen because of something else that a partner does when they know full well that in doing so; they run the risk of losing their relationship.  Betrayal is not always something that couples can move past. That’s why it’s best to avoid it completely.

However, if your partner has betrayed you in the most unthinkable way, it’s going to be up to you as to how you handle it. Many men cheat on their partners and are immediately contrite once they’re caught. They promise the earth, moon and stars to their partners that they love only them and that the cheating will never happen again. In spite of all the promises, how will you ever be able to trust them again?

That becomes the biggest part of the problem. No one wants to live the rest of their life with someone they can’t trust. It’s simply not worth all of the stress and strain that you’ll undergo if you can’t bring yourself to believe your partner. Once trust is broken, it may be destroyed irreparably, and if that’s the case, there’s really no way to maintain a healthy relationship.

Whether or not you decide to stay with the partner that betrayed you, it’s still important that you see a counselor of sorts. You’ll most likely be dealing with all sorts of feelings such as anger, hurt, and just sadness. These can combine to become unbearable and you’ll need someone to help you sort through them all.

Something else that most people need to know is why their partners cheated on them. Women will be positive that they did everything they knew to keep the relationship a good and happy one. Yet, their partners found someone that they felt was worth risking all of that for.

Keep in mind that women of all types get cheated on. Some of the most beautiful women in the world are cheated on by their partners. Such women like Sandra Bullock and Elin Nordegren that any man would be thrilled to have at their side were cheated on by their famous spouses. What’s surprising is the type of women that they chose to cheat with. While both of these women are stunningly beautiful, their spouses gravitated towards cheaper, sluttier women that were nowhere close to being as lovely as their wives. So, don’t get caught up in the mindset of that you’re not pretty enough.

There are many ways that you can move past your betrayal, but it may not come with your relationship intact. If you feel that you can never trust your partner again, it’s time to walk away. Do whatever it takes to heal yourself and take the time to regain your composure. You’ll know when it’s time to get back out there and try again. Not all men are pond scum and that’s what you need to remember. Give the good ones a chance to offer you hope for a great relationship the next time around.