Battling Depression: How To Help A Loved One
Depression is not only difficult for the person who has been diagnosed; it is also often very hard for their friends, family members and coworkers. If someone you know recently discovered they have depression, you can be a wonderful support system for them. You may, however, find yourself frustrated and unsure of what to do at times. The following tips will help guide you through this difficult journey.
Research
Even if you think you already know a lot about depression, it is important to educate yourself. Find out what the symptoms are and what type of treatments are available. The more facts you are able to gather, the more help you can be to your friend or family member. Knowledge increases understanding, and understanding leads to empathy, which is something your loved will desperately need.
Recruit
Help establish a large and loving support group for the diagnosed individual. While you may want to be there for him or her, and that is great, you are not going to be able to handle everything by yourself. Talk to your friend and tell him your plans. Discuss which people you want to be part of your support "team." Occasionally, depressed individuals don't want others to know of their condition. However, keeping it a secret only increases the person's feelings that there is something "wrong" with him or her.
Help
Your friend may find daily life difficult. Even something as simple as making dinner in the evenings could feel overwhelming and even scary. Think about what you can do to help. It doesn't have to be anything that takes you away from your daily life too much; every little bit counts. Consider making dinner for your friend once a month or offer to come over and help fold laundry on a certain day. Your friend will appreciate it, and it may help them keep everything together.
Relax
Remember, in order to be a good friend, you have to do things for yourself sometimes too. It isn't always easy trying to support someone with depression. Think about what you like to do and make sure you allow time to do it at least once a week. It could be as simple as just going for a walk in the evenings or watching a movie once a week. Whatever you want to do, establish a schedule for yourself so that you have something to look forward to every week.
Listen
If your friend seems suicidal, don't ignore the signs. Both their words and their actions could clue you in to the fact that something is wrong. Call their doctor if they won't get help or even dial 911 if you think the situation warrants it. It is always better to be safe than sorry, and your friend will one day thank you for your vigilance.
It is not easy trying to support someone with depression. Whenever you feel overwhelmed, simply refer to the information above to help you regroup. And remember, while it is important to be a good friend, you shouldn't lose yourself in the process.
