Forgiveness in a Relationship

The majority of couples do argue from time to time. These can be small but heated debates all the way up to full-fledged fighting that include throwing things and name calling. A lot of couples actually enjoy these arguments because of the making up that comes after. It simply depends on the individuals involved.

Couples that have arguments will typically have the need to forgive each other or the one that was wrong needs forgiveness. For many people, this is the hardest thing in the world. That goes for both asking for it and granting it. Forgiveness is a very touchy area for all types of relationships. Many times, it’s something that must be learned.

The reasons for fighting can have a huge bearing on whether forgiveness can be granted or if it’s even deserved. This is one of the biggest reasons that couples are cautioned against saying things in anger that they can’t take back. Anger and rage can bring out some of the most hateful sides of people, and they say things that are hurtful. These things, once said, can’t be taken back. They hang there in the air and start to erode even the strongest relationship.

Actions can also be reasons for fighting. These actions are usually of the type that humiliate or anger one partner. Cheating is a good example of actions that will humiliate and anger a partner, thus causing a huge fight. Infidelity is also something that may not deserve forgiveness. It may also not receive it. When someone betrays their partner in this way, it’s very possible that forgiveness may not be forthcoming. On the other hand, if there were mitigating circumstances, then the cheating may be something that can be rationally discussed through counseling or other types of communication.

Forgiveness is a very important and necessary part of any relationship. If you don’t feel that you’re capable of forgiving someone for any wrong that’s done to you, it may be better to forego being in a relationship at all. Another part of forgiveness comes in being able to admit that you’re wrong about something and are able to apologize and ask to be forgiven. There are too many people that have a really difficult time in admitting when they’re wrong about something. If you’re one of these people, you’ll need to work on this before becoming involved in a relationship because a huge part in making a relationship a success is compromise. Both of you aren’t capable of being right one hundred percent of the time.

When you’re in a relationship, you need to pick and choose your battles. Hopefully, you won’t need to be conducting a large percentage of your relationship on a “battlefield.” Fighting or arguing is perfectly natural when two people live together because no one is exactly like someone else. In fact, a certain amount of disagreements is actually healthy. A relationship where both partners think exactly like one another can get kind of boring. It’s just important that when you do have these disagreements, you’re able to forgive and ask for forgiveness.