Becoming A Better Person Through Personal Development
You go through a lot of changes in life. You change your career path and you change the vehicle you drive to match your lifestyle but, the hardest kind of change is the one that happens within yourself. There might be aspects of your personality and inner-self that you feel you need work on. Maybe others have referred to you as selfish, cold or negative and you have decided it is time for a change. They are all traits that no one likes to admit to, which is why it is so hard to better yourself in these areas. This article will touch on some of these personality traits and share ways that you can proactively change your behavior to become a better person.
It can be easy to get caught up in your own wants and needs and not realize how you might be affecting those around you. Ignoring others needs to put your own first is selfish. You might have unintentionally hurt someone with your selfish behavior and now feel bad about it. Selfishness might bring you a feeling of immediate gratification, but knowing that you hurt others will bother you deep down later on. Luckily, you can fix this to become more of a team player. Before doing things consciously think about how your decisions will effect other people that might be involved. Taking other peoples needs and desires into consideration can actually be quite rewarding and sometimes beneficial to you.
One of the hardest things for people to do is admit when they are wrong. It is important that you always take responsibility for your actions, because this says a lot about your character. When someone is ashamed or upset at themselves they tend to try to lay the blame on others. If you find that you are often blaming others for your own faults, then it is time to take a step back and reevaluate how you react to situations. When something does not go right in your life, take a moment to really look hard at the situation before you go placing the blame on anyone else. When you are not afraid to admit your shortcomings you will be much better off to handle situations that life will throw at you down the road.
If you notice that people usually do not react warmly to you or strangers never approach you, it might be time to take a step back and take another look at yourself. Some people don't realize that they come across as arrogant, unapproachable, negative or any other number of undesirable personality traits. Recognizing that you are displaying one or some of these traits is the first step to fixing it. Ask people what they honestly think of you, no hurt feelings. This can help you to pinpoint certain areas to work on. If they say you are unapproachable, then you can work at softening your facial expressions and using more open body behavior as opposed to scowling with your arms crossed.
Personal development is most successful when you recognize what it is that you need to change. It is never fun to look at the not so pleasant aspects of your personality, but hopefully now you can make the changes you need to become a better person.
