The Dating Pool Is Bigger Than You Think

You’re ready to get out there and date – good for you! But where are all the women? The minute you start looking, the kind of girls you’d like to date are nowhere to be found. You live in a tiny town on the outskirts of nowhere and there aren’t any women, or the only women you meet on the elevator or at the store are either wearing huge sparkling wedding rings, or look like Ernest Borgnine. Now what?

As a general rule, there are always more single females than males out there - you’ve already got an advantage. Depending on where you live, up to 45% of the adult population is single.

And via the Internet, you have access to millions of single women. You’re only limited by how far you might be willing to travel to meet someone. It isn’t unusual these days to meet and date someone who lives a thousand miles away (or more).

Before you reject Internet dating, remember that if it never worked, it probably would’ve died out already. There are many good, ethical Internet dating sites that work really hard to get your money by giving you the best chance they can at meeting someone, or several someones that you like.

You don’t have to be dishonest or make yourself sound like Superman (it’s probably better if you don’t try that). The biggest tip is to post some really great photos of yourself (current, not from when you were 20, unless you’re 21 – that’s okay).

That’s the first thing your potential dates will see. What if you don’t like the way you look? A photo of you with a sincere friendly smile, doing something you enjoy, with your dog, or in your favorite shirt is what you need – you need to be you – smiling and happy.

Your friends can also introduce you to women. Maybe your friends can set up casual meetings - like at their next backyard BBQ. Then it’s not so forced like a blind date would be. Because your friends know you, they have a decent idea of who you might hit it off with.

Check to see if you share common interests with women you meet. What are your hobbies? Maybe biking, reading, music, martial arts, cooking, or health and fitness? You could join clubs or take classes having to do with your interests. This is often a good place to meet new people – maybe your next date!

Attend special events. What if you’re favorite politician or author is in the area giving a talk? What if the Dalai Lama is visiting a nearby city (and you just happen to be interested in Eastern Religion)? You could meet like-minded women at these events.

Coffee houses, bookstores, bark parks, the laundromat - women, single and otherwise, hang out at places like these (everyone needs clean clothes, a walked dog and coffee, right?). They can be good spots to meet single women. Use your imagination. Any place can be a good place to meet a potential date.